I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about the difference of having a birth child and what we adoptive parents go through to find our child. Think of all the little and big steps that God with the help of the universe and individuals have to make happen to bring our families together. Here are a few of the steps that I could think of:
1. You getting out of that comfort zone to make the first step at looking into various forms of adoption, be it foster/adopt, foster, domestic adoption through the birth mother or international adoption. Found out through waiting, that no one is really going to just leave a baby on your doorstep!
2. Attending adoption meetings. Choosing the agency first and then the country (in my case) that feels right. Signing.
3. The agency and country is a match, you are accepted! But can I find the money to bring a child into my life? You can and you did, thanks to friends at banks!
4. The time it takes for paperwork, for visiting friends who stay 2 months to leave, to receive the homestudy report, the CIS report.....okay just time to do paperwork.
5. Then on the other end, God has to give this child to another, this birth Mother will have to make the most difficult decision of her life, she will have to chose to give up her child for adoption.
6. This seems to be where it gets tricky. God has to make sure that this child goes to an orphanage in a region that your agency has ties to. He also has to make sure that no one else "sees" him first. The child is available to adopt for the first 6 months only to those who live in his country
7. You are then invited to come to the country, Kazakhstan in this case, and meet your child. Suppose that when you get to Kaz, there are two children for you to meet. Will you know your child? I like to think absolutely! You will know each other! It is hard not to feel sad for the other child but you know in your heart that a wonderful family is waiting anxiously to meet him.
8. After the first meeting, about 2 months later you bring him home. He is home and you are a family. So much Love!
9. Your life begins again! Amen!!
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Thank you so much for sharing your faith and patience. You are a good example to me. Sam is lucky to have such an awesome mom, and he has a wonderful future ahead of him.
There is so much that comes together for this to happen--it really is a miracle. I am waiting for the day when we both reach #9 on your list--life begins again.
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